In an Op-Ed for Time , Amber Rose poured out her heart
like never seen before.
She wrote on having to endure the judgement of others
and constantly explaining herself. She revealed she has
gotten over caring what people think and has chosen
instead to just be herself. She wrote the piece a day
after her tweet fight with Kanye.
Read below:
“Ever since high school, I’ve been called a
slut. All the boys were attracted to me—that
wasn’t my fault! Then, when I started getting
famous, the shaming got even worse.
All these messed up stories came out about
me, and I was like, “That’s not true! I’m not
that kind of girl!” But even things I had done
—things a man would never be judged for—
got me lots of hate.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d
go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single
human and people would say, “Man, she’s such a ho.
She’s out at restaurants with guys.” Then they would
see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They
would say, “He’s the man! That’s so cool.”
So when I went on a date, I’m a whore, and when he’s
piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something
wrong here.
It wasn’t just men saying these types of things. There
were a lot of women saying hateful things to me. I was
getting torn down constantly. But in the past year, I’ve
just started not caring.
People would actually say things like, “Who would ever
love you? You were a stripper. Why are you in
relationships?” And I used to feel like I had to explain
that maybe it was because I’m a good person.
But I realized that I can’t make everyone believe. And I
can’t talk to everyone and tell them who I really am.
They’re still going to have their own opinions. If you
know me, you love me. If you don’t know me, you might
love me, but you might not—and that’s cool. And you
know what? Now I sleep like a baby at night.
It wasn’t even that hard to stop caring what other
people thought. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have a
boyfriend so I didn’t have to care about anyone else’s
feelings or protect anyone’s heart. I thought, “This is my
life. This is about me. If you don’t like it, I don’t care.
I’m going to do anything and everything I want with my
own life.”
What I’ve realized is that, when you care too much,
you’re not living at your full potential. When you really
stop caring about what people say, that’s when you
really start living. It’s such an amazing feeling. It’s
about loving who you are, owning who you are and
knowing that it’s O.K. to live your life how you want to
live it. We’re all human, which means we’re not all
perfect. It’s so cool to think that I might help women
think about who they want to be and then encourage
them to be that person with no remorse. I want to help
women just be happy in their own skin.
So please: Before you judge someone—especially
another woman—put yourself in her shoes and also look
at your past. That’s what a lot of women fail to do.
They’re so quick to call another girl names, but it’s like:
You know what? There may have been a time where
you looked back and said, “I probably shouldn’t have
done that.” Does that make you a ho? No, it makes you
a human.”
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